‘He didn't just propose quietly, either’: New Bride's Selfish Brother Proposes to His Girlfriend at Her Wedding Reception, Causing A Family Divide

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Lana DeGaetano • "Show me to me please."
Jul 20, 2024 10:00 AM EDT

He just couldn't wait, could he?

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  • Weddings are special days for many people, but most of all, they're significant milestones for one specific loving relationship. The event celebrates unconditional love between two people, and two people only (the people getting married, duh). Of course, weddings hit us right in our feels, so everyone tends to get a bit lovey-dovey when tenderness and warmth are in the air. It's all good and fun to be reminded of the love that exists in the world around you and in your personal life. What isn't good and fun is proposing to your significant other at your sister's wedding. That's what this brother did; I have to say, impressive on the selfish meter.

    The woman in this story saved up for an intimate, private ceremony that can be enjoyed by family and friends. In the middle of the wedding reception, her brother asked the DJ to cut out the music. He very proudly got down on one knee and proposed in the middle of the dance floor, causing everyone to go silent watching their engagement. The woman confronted him, and he believed she was overreacting. She ultimately booted him from the celebration, and now their family is torn between the two sides. Scroll along to get the rest of the story, along with some sound and hilarious advice from our favorite internet therapists.

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    AITA for kicking my brother out of my wedding after he proposed to his girlfriend during the reception?
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    I (28F) recently got married to my wonderful husband (30M). We had a beautiful wedding that we spent a year planning and saving for. It was a small, intimate ceremony with close family and friends, followed by a reception at a lovely venue.
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    Everything was going perfectly until my older brother (32M) decided to propose to his girlfriend (28F) during our reception. He didn't just propose quietly, either. he made a big scene, getting down on one knee
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    right in the middle of the dance floor, stopping the music, and drawing everyone's attention. It felt like the whole reception shifted from celebrating our marriage to celebrating their engagement.
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    I was stunned and didn't know how to react at first. My husband was visibly upset. I tried to keep my composure, but as the night went on, I grew increasingly frustrated...
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    I pulled him aside and told him that I thought what he did was incredibly disrespectful and selfish. I asked him to leave the reception because I didn't want any more drama. He was shocked and said I was overreacting, and that it was just a "spur of the moment" thing. His girlfriend looked embarrassed, and they both left.
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    Now, my family is divided. Some of them think I was right to stand up for myself, while others think I overreacted and should have just let it go. My brother has since apologized, but I can't shake the feeling of having my special day overshadowed. AITA for kicking my brother out of my wedding after he proposed during our reception?
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    Urbanyeti0 • 8h ago NTA absolutely disgusting and disrespectful of anyone to propose at someone else's wedding, doubly so for a direct family member Was there a ring? If so, that's not spur of the moment, that was 100% planned by him.
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    This isn't a quick apology and move on, a wedding day is supposed to be a singularly special occasion for you and your new spouse and all your friends and family to celebrate. Congrats on your wedding, I hope the rest of your evening returned to form
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    • NoSalamander7749 8h ago NTA. Honestly pulling him aside and kicking him out later was a very lowkey way to go about it and I think most people are a lot more blatant. That's a pretty serious faux pas and if he truly just didn't think about it, he'll apologize and get over it and so will your family.
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    ArpeggioTheUnbr... • 8h ago NTA. He should have asked permission before hijacking your event. Some people wouldn't care. I wouldn't have cared at all. But this is not a situation in which someone just assumes it's okay to go ahead and do it without checking first.
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    It was selfish and tacky of him. You pulled him to the side and handled it privately. If anyone is upset, it began with his actions and you only responded.
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    Personal-Carpet7... . 8h ago NTA, he should have asked before hand...there's no way it was a spur of the moment thing... especially if he had the ring with him. he took the time to ask the band/DJ, provider of music. to stop the music...he could have approached to both to ask for permission before he got the music stopped.
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    Over-Ad-6555 • 7h ago NTA....at their wedding, announce your pregnancy...whether you're pregnant or not.
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    KSknitter • 7h ago NTA, but really, I hate it more for his girlfriend than you. 1. He was too cheap and unintelligent to plan his own special day to propose? How... well... interesting. Does she realize that he will planning everything this way through the whole marriage? No... just me see that writing on the wall? Good to know.
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    2. Was this so he could have family be part of the proposal? Is this to show how HIS family matters, but hers doesn't need to be involved? I mean HIS mom got to see the proposal, and that is all that matters, HER family... not so much... in fact it was more important that his sisters future MIL was there than your brothers future brides mom... good show...
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    Good_Ad6336 . 8h ago NTA. Would he appreciate you making a speech during his wedding where you talk about your husband? Nope. Because weddings are supposed to be about the bride and groom. But then again... maybe keep that in mind when his wedding comes around.
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    likeahike. 7h ago NTA, spur of the moment... But he had the ring just in case? Nope, he planned this. And it's disrespectful. You did good.
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    fanastril . 7h ago NTA You should have interupted them and thrown them out right away. Some advice you can give to others getting married is to inform the staff, groomsmen, bridemaids, etc to interupt and disturb anyone trying to steal the spotlight, and throw them out.
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    Angela2208 . 8h ago NTA. You should be the center of attention Was she wearing a white dress on top of that?
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    itsdafly OP • 5h ago Appreciate the support everyone, glad to see only a few thinks I'm an 1. A bit over the edge to announce pregnancy at his wedding though
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